It’s officially Thanksgiving Day here. I don’t celebrate holidays. I’ve learned too much truth since becoming an adult. This particular holiday is the worst one in my opinion. Today marks the day that the genocide of humans with brown skin began. Starting with the spread of disease to the Natives in America during the festive feast day. We’ll never know how many were killed in the initial onslaught of smallpox, and the like. That, of course, was followed up with war, massacre, and the systematic stripping of all Native heritage, which was forcibly replaced with Christianity. We took their lives, their land, their pride, and their livelihood. But that wasn’t enough. We even went after their spirituality. And when we were done, we forced them to live in poverty on reservations of land we didn’t want.
Of course, there were a few times that the land turned out to have value, such as gold or oil. Then we took it back, and told them to move. I can’t think of a single atrocity that wasn’t committed against the Native peoples of this continent. If I left one out, I don’t want to know about it. I can’t sleep as it is. I feel the weight of the evil perpetrated on the Native Americans. I feel guilty. I didn’t exist at the time, and had no voice to object to these actions. But I have always lived on their land. When I discovered how we acquired these lands in graphic detail and photos, I didn’t run away in horror. I stayed and continued living my life. I didn’t know where to go or how to get there when I was a child.
After I got my drivers license and a car, I drove to the nearest reservation and asked to speak with the chief. An old man came and talked to me. I don’t know if he was the chief, or if they even had one. I knew nothing of tribal government at that time. I apologized for living on their lands. He didn’t say anything to that. He didn’t forgive me, or tell me to burn in hell. Just silence. I took his non-response to mean, “Live with this knowledge.” It wasn’t a friendly chit chat by any stretch. Some questions I asked, he ignored. After the silence went on for a while, I’d ask a different question. I didn’t know how to tell if someone was angry or bitter at that time. I’m pretty sure I still don’t. So I don’t know how he felt about my showing up with questions out of the blue.
Part of me expected him to impart some wisdom on me, and tell me that they recognized my brown skin as a commonality among us, along with the struggle it causes. Instead, he told me that most of them didn’t like black people. It hurt my feelings, and made me feel a little bit unsafe. He went on to say that he didn’t hate black people. He said we’re all niggers to the white man. The Natives are prairie niggers, and I was just a regular nigger. It was my first time hearing the term prairie nigger. Not my last. The entire exchange showed me that I was ignorant of their culture, even though I felt like I was part of it because of my Native foster siblings. It was a hard day. I was 14 at that time. I went back several times after that with more questions.
The east river tribes are Oglala. They have it better than the west river folks on Pine Ridge reservation. My Mom refused to accept foster babies from Pine Ridge. I never got an answer out of her as to why this was the case. I figured it was too far away. It’s about a 5-7 hour drive, depending on whether or not you’re afraid of highway patrolman. It’s flat and you can see for miles in all directions. You can drive for an hour without seeing a single other vehicle. So if you want to drive 90 MPH, and your car is in good repair, go for it. Just slow down if you see a patrol car in the median. I’ve never gotten a speeding ticket, and I drive 90 when I go west. And south. I did get pulled over in Nebraska or Iowa. I just got a warning. I was doing 85 MPH in a 75 MPH zone. Like it matters at that point.
I went to a few Powwows. I liked seeing them fully dressed in headdresses and the rest of the garb. They dance and sing and beat on drums. The things I noticed that are differences are that the Lakota people speak with an accent that is very distinct to my ears. And their urine smells different than African and Caucasian urine. It’s sweeter smelling. I know that’s a strange thing to observe, but when you consider how I helped my Mom with the foster babies, it’s easier to understand. My Mom used cloth diapers, and safety pins with plastic protectors on them. I never changed a single diaper. I didn’t have the dexterity and strength in my hands to safely replace the pins. My Mom would have me stand beside the changing table and make sure the baby stayed on it while she answered the phone sometimes, though.
I’m sensitive to odors. In my last apartment, the teenaged girl who lived above me spilled her nail polish remover on the kitchen counter, and I smelled it in my apartment. When I asked her about it, she thought it was amazing that I could smell it. Amazing is not the word I would have chosen. Sensitivity to odors is a curse. Try running in formation while several guys around you are sweating out Tequila from the night before. They weren’t the only ones sprinting to the curb periodically to vomit. But I’d rather run with that all day than get in an elevator with a guy who bought into those Axe commercials.
I know a lot of people who have no idea that Native Americans still exist. They live their entire lives without thinking about them a single time. It’s a hidden problem. Most stay on or near the reservations. Many join the military, but are often thought of as Latinos. I don’t fault them for the misidentification. It’s purely ignorance, not malice. So many people grow up without ever being exposed to people of color. They see us on TV or in movies, but that’s the extent of their knowledge. And TV and movies are fantasy. You can’t rely on the information, and should probably assume it’s wrong until you have a chance to do your own research.
I grew up in a city that was named, The Whitest City In America, by U.S. News and World Report magazine. I wasn’t surprised. I was the only black kid in my school district at times. Heather was a year behind me, so each time I advanced to a new school, I had to be the only black kid all over again until my Junior year in High School. Then a few black families moved into town. I hated school until university. I did well on the Iowa Basics, PSAT, and SAT. I made the honor role each time. I also had the record for most days missed. I skipped a lot. My Mom got tired of fighting to get me to go. My last semester was at Augustana University as a compromise to my desire to drop out. I liked that much better. I lost my High School Diploma after only looking at it once. It probably ended up with Heather. After she died, my sister, Greta, went through her things. I was too stunned to be of any assistance at that time. I don’t communicate with Greta. She’s a sociopath, and tried to kill me when I was an infant.
The last time we spoke, she told me that my Mom should never have adopted us. (Me, Heather, and Steve). It was creepy. She doesn’t communicate with any of my remaining siblings. My Mom had a strained relationship with her. She came to visit once, and stayed with my brother, Guy. While he was at work, she snooped through every inch of his house. I don’t remember how he found out, but he vowed to never allow her in his home again. The older, birth kids were not close. There’s a lot of history that I probably won’t get into much. My oldest brother, Gary, was forced to get shock treatments when he was a teenager. I think it had something to do with depression and drug use. I wasn’t alive yet. I overheard that he never forgave my Mom for putting him through that.
I only saw him a few times in my life. My impression was that he was my coolest brother. I was completely fascinated by him, and loved him immediately. He was soft spoken, and quiet, but when he did speak, it was deep and wise to me. He even looks gentle. I’m glad I got to meet him, even if it was just those few times. I never met Skip. He was my Dads oldest son from his previous marriage. Skip moved to Canada during the Vietnam war and never came back for obvious reasons. The 60’s had a clear impact on my older siblings. I have mental images of how they dressed, and the music they favored when I was young. Bell bottom corduroy pants in a burnt sienna brown that made a swoosh noise when my brother walked. But I don’t remember which brother, or any other part of the clothing. Weird.
I should be sleeping as it’s the wee hours of Thanksgiving morning. I couldn’t sleep knowing today will be celebrated by millions of oblivious or callous Americans by stuffing themselves with food, watching football, and the like. I doubt the vast majority will think about the Natives at all. And if they do, they will think of them as Indians, even though it’s an incredibly ignorant way of thinking. It blows my mind that it’s 2015, and most people still refer to Natives as Indians. There is even a school debate topic titled Indian Country, that was drafted here in South Dakota, within a few miles of a reservation. When I told them how astonished I was that it was being used, they told me that it was okay, because the Indians are okay with it. Unfuckingbelievable.
Reality is more like, they asked 1 Native about it, and he or she didn’t care either way, and just wanted to go about his or her business. They became the spokesperson for all Natives on the issue, and validated the ignorance yet again. Obviously, it wasn’t going to get changed no matter what the Native they asked thought about it. If 100 Natives gathered outside the building where this decision was made, and peacefully protested to show their disgust at the ignorance, it wouldn’t have made any difference. They do what the fuck they want to do, and we have no right to feel offended by it. America. Where you can buy absolute power in order to practice absolute corruption. The peasant majority doesn’t know they are the peasants yet. Denial is strong. White people are not used to being subjugated by other white people on this scale, and have a hard time recognizing when it’s happening.
So we peasants, in our denial, fight against one another, causing the corruptors to gain even more power. Until finally, many band together in order to kill off the rest of us with brown skin. And then we all lived happily ever after. The End. Sigh.