I’ve been speculating about a pre-life scenario in which we choose our families before we’re born. Sometimes, I wonder if this is the case for me. It seems to me my life was specifically designed to aid in rejecting hate. I suck at hating people. I literally can’t do it for very long. It’s like having a bug in your nose. You divert all energy to removing it as quickly as possible. Nothing else matters until it’s gone.
Hating takes a lot of resources. It also has a lot of unfortunate side effects. Like premature aging. (There’s a reason people associate oldness with intolerance.) Also, hate makes people ugly. Dogs and toddlers react to hateful people instinctively. That’s a lot of detectors. If your dog is wary around someone, you notice, right? Same with small children. It’s a survival mechanism.
I’m glad I suck at it. I’m pretty sure I’m as bitter as it’s possible to be about racism, without becoming racist. Everything I’ve experienced and witnessed so far reinforces the fact we’re all the same. Skin color is no more significant than eye color. Whether you exist on soil A or soil B matters not at all. What matters is what you do with your avatar.
We have varied interests; our characteristics shaped by our ancestors. What we experience, process, and reflect upon affect how we perceive the world. But we’re all the same, too. There are no differences that make one group more or less worthy of life than another. The groups are only significant because we make them so. We react to our subtle differences as if we’re pre-programmed to encounter aliens at some point in the future, (or as likely in the past.)
We’re little creators. We create our world and everything it holds, then create stories about ourselves and our lives and exchange them. I’m hoping for aliens in the very near future (because I’m exasperated by racism, and I think it would put things in a more realistic perspective.) Hating brown skin will seem silly when the green guys with three heads show up, don’t you know. It might be the only thing that makes all of humanity cherish all of humanity.
I wonder if I chose my family because I knew living on a planet with 7 billion or so others would at least require tolerance of others. Tribalism doesn’t work with billions of people on one earth. It’s a straight path to species annihilation, which I hope isn’t the goal. I hope whoever programmed this game we call life included numerous scenarios in which humans exist in future expansion packs. I’d like to think the next update will be Humans: Post-physical Shenanigans. It’ll be like the internet on steroids. 😂