I got gently course-corrected by The Friend Zone podcast this week. It related to how I identify healing, what it means, and my expectations of life after that. (I’m reasonably sure I’ve established my propensity for over-excitement.) I’ve since re-evaluated, sat with, and reigned in my expectations. In a way, it’s a relief because my expectations were kind of lofty. 🤭 I’m grateful; (imagine how much time this adjustment will save.) The assignment this week is to counter each negative thought with five positive (before sleeping) to train away negative self-talk.
It sounded like a lot to me at first. But I tried it, and it’s fun. I’m enjoying it as much as a video game that doesn’t depend solely on hand-eye coordination for advancement. 😶 It unlocked a new level in life, too. Now, I am suddenly able to recall lots of good memories from times in my life when traumatic memories used to block them. It’s fracking awesome! I knew I had a ridiculous amount of fun while serving, but couldn’t trace it back to very many specific memories. Now I can, and it began from thinking of positive things to counter negative self-talk.
The timing was excellent, as I didn’t make it north to visit my sister. I was busy mentally tearing myself into ickle bitty pieces over it when the airshow shut me down for a while. (Even though my sisters’ response was so kind, it made me cry.) I was repeating my old habit of jumping in with both feet like my life hasn’t been a cautionary tale advising the opposite. I forgot. 🤭 (My body remembered and activated all the alarms.) I’m one of those people who have to experience the lesson to grok it, half the time.
My level of interest determines how quickly I learn, which is as much a blessing as a curse. If I’m interested, I learn so quickly people behave differently around me ever after. (It’s weird and fascinating.) If not, I’m no longer surprised by people assuming I’m intellectually challenged based on how much repetition is required for me to learn. (I went from my ego being in intensive care to no damns to give rather quickly in that regard.) It also strengthened my asshole detector; bonus. Sometimes, I wish I could control this by faking interest, but so far, nope.
I did make it to Denver, even though I just had a meltdown recently. Flying is a lot easier than driving for me, and TSA is part of why. I know it’s weird, but I like TSA in Denver and Sioux Falls. They help make it possible for me to travel alone. I was an inch from bawling over the slightest thing and still managed to maneuver an international airport by myself without shedding a single tear. The app on my phone failed to load my boarding pass. Seconds before I tilted my head back and just crumbled into a most pitiful pile, a TSA person stepped in and gave me clear instructions on how to resolve it.
And when I did step one then promptly got lost, another TSA person stepped in like they were in a relay race passing batons. They even wrote me a note, so I didn’t have to stand in the long ass security line twice. I know about the services that prevent this, but I need the time to mentally prepare for following all the instructions without holding up others. (I’m so much better at it now than when I first started traveling again.) A TSA person pulled me aside and told me exactly how to behave (body language) when in line so that I would stop getting all my bags scrutinized. She didn’t have to do that, and I’m thankful. It makes me wonder if they get training for interacting with neurodivergent people. (It seems like they do.)
I was able to speak aloud at the time, but not much beyond lots of nodding and showing my phone screen. I know a lot of people are annoyed by TSA, but to me, they’re helpful and pleasant. (At least in Sioux Falls and Denver.) Guitar Hero is teaching me how to use weed as a creative tool. (I can tell he was a hippie because he has a lot of rules about respecting pot.) I’m loving every minute of being calm in my body. It’s a lot like coming up for air after staying underwater a little too long. I’m off to introduce him to Solange. 😆💜✌🏾