The Depression Monster is riding my back. It’s at minor annoyance level. I’m a bit surprised by my suspicions of why I’m feeling low. I think it’s because I’m studying Stevie Nicks, and I’ve come to a rough point in her past. I’m at the overwhelming betrayal: She was told she had to stop using cocaine or she’d die. Clearly, she stopped. When she was recovering from addiction to cocaine, she was prescribed Klonopin. It led to a worse addiction. That’s a pretty big mind fuck. I’m experiencing it retroactively, but apparently, my empathy didn’t get the memo.
I paused the documentary at that point to process what I’ve learned so far. Fame is ugly. It’s not new information, but watching Fleetwood Mac lose their innocence was hard. I now know Rumours was created from pain. They were all experiencing raw grief. The successful album says a lot about their professionalism and abilities. Most people don’t want anything badly enough to endure such circumstances. They were about to make it big, but I don’t think they knew it. They certainly earned it.
It bugs me something so sought after is basically a trap. A trap for drug addiction, and a new type of loneliness exclusive to famous people. It triggers my protective nature. Fuck the universe for tempting so many people to strive for fame before revealing it’s true nature. People don’t like to be fucked with, especially not after pouring everything they have into reaching for excellence. Fuck. Also, the men interviewed in this documentary are pissing me off. They’re music producers from the late 70’s, which is probably enough explanation.
They’re accidentally doing a fairly good job of conveying how things went down, but you have to read between the lines. They’re inarticulate and behave like frenemies at best, ex-lovers at worst. Nobody is watching this documentary to hear about how butt-hurt the producers are decades after the fact. Besides, Gen X women know misogyny speak fluently. When men describe a woman as a bitch, diva, full of herself, bossy, and/or demanding, we are aware it actually means she was a formidable leader. It says she didn’t submit to male dominance. It means she’s someone worthy of our attention.
I’m noticing similarities between Stevie Nicks and Carrie Fisher. They’re both survivors and storytellers. They’re understandable to me. I’ve probably stated this many times, but understanding is the path to love. When you understand someone, you can’t help but love them. Loving those who don’t know I even exist is surprisingly delightful. It’s a safe secret. I’m not very good at being a fan of famous people. I rarely go to concerts because the other fans scare the shit out of me. I’m pretty sure a lot of famous people have been traumatized by their fans. We should rename fame. It should be called Public Pain. (I’m a huge fan of stating what’s meant.)
I can’t recall ever meeting anyone famous. It’s a perk of living in South Dakota. We’ve all rehearsed how we plan to act should it ever occur, but even my rehearsals haven’t gone well. My imagination is kind of an asshole. I’m barely able to manage it, (mostly because it amuses me too much to try very hard.) The only famous person I’m confident I could meet (without regretting my behavior ever after) would be Michelle Obama. I know exactly how that would go down. She’d smile and offer to shake my hand, and I’d immediately start bawling. I wouldn’t be ashamed because I know so many who would react exactly the same way. (She’s probably used to it.)
I know I’m rambling on and on, but I can’t help myself. I haven’t spoken to anyone but my cat in a few days. (It was deliberate, but I’m an inch away from too weird, to begin with.) So here we are. I still have a profound sense the end of my life is impending. It’s been over six months, but the feeling hasn’t waivered. I hate to admit it, but I’m enjoying the planning process. (I think it’s just that I like planning in general.) I’m at a point now where I recognize I need to write a short story about my childhood nightmares. It’ll be a cleansing. I’ve always been reluctant to write it because it’s a horror story and it’s not reality.
I would suck as an author. I have the discipline and imagination. I don’t have the thingamajig required to convince anyone a fantasy is real. The things I love most about novels are things I’m only capable of recognizing, not reproducing. I’m pretty sure identifying them is more fun, though. I don’t do the foreshadowing dance anymore, but I still get a burst of joy every time I recognize it on a first read. That’s a lot of mileage considering I was in primary school when I learned of it. But as a writer, I don’t foreshadow, I announce in advance. Sigh. Sophistication is a bitch.
Why give me comprehension without the skill? That’s fucking mean. But I’m not complaining, just rambling. I’ve managed to put off this short story for most of my life. I guess it’s time to purge it. I’m extremely curious about what comes after life if anything. I’m mostly sure the answer is nothing. The thing I like most about that possibility is its nature; there can be no regrets. The itsy bitsy chance someone imagined it right, or even close, is still enough to get lost in for a while. It bothers me a bit that I’m not grieving, though. Does it mean I’m ready? We’ll see. I’m off to beat my drums.