I watched a show on PBS today that wrapped itself around my heart and tugged. It’s called, Kind Hearted Woman. I caught it in the middle, but was instantly hooked. Its a real story about a Native woman from the Spirit Lake reservation in ND. A woman was comforting her daughter before she went to sleep. Her daughter had spoken up about being sexually abused by her Dad. Everything her Mom said to her was so perfect.
She knew exactly what her daughter was feeling, as she’d experienced it herself when she was a child. I have never seen someone help a child cope with this so well. It’s not a scripted show. These are real people living within driving distance of me right now. I immediately picked up on the Native accent. I grew up with foster siblings from various reservations in SD, so conversing with their families during visits was common throughout my childhood. They were like extended family to me. Their kids were usually in foster care because they had a medical condition that couldn’t be properly treated and accommodated on the reservation.
Watching this woman cope with her past, and present while battling for custody of her two children felt like listening to one of my sisters. She had a lot of things working against her in the episode I watched. Tribal council law was so unjust. They blasted her character in an attempt to cover up the sexual abuse issues going on behind closed doors on the reservation. I haven’t yet seen how it will play out as this was filmed 2 years ago. I ordered the DVD’s on Amazon, because I have to know that things worked out for her and her children.
I’m so used to being the outsider who never fits in, and is baffled by the behaviors of other people. I feel a connection with her because I can relate to her struggle in feeling like the world is so confusing, and actively working against her, yet getting up and living life anyway. It’s a nice feeling. Like there is someone on this planet with whom I can understand and root for, and hope for her to find lots of joy in her life.